Posts Tagged ‘SEX

01
Jun
10

Adding a 3rd to your Relationship…

“They say that 2’s company and 3’s a crowd…. Or is it?? Lacey and Jessica discuss what it would mean to include a third person in your intimate relationship.

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02
Feb
10

February 2010 BLAST!

FUN-UARY!!!

Happy LOVE Month EVERYBODY! This is a month I’m going to remember for the REST of my life. On February 28th, 2010 I’m getting married to the lovely Ms Jessica Rose Clark, wwwoooowww.  Thank you to everyone whose played a part in our lives. We can’t believe it… It’s a mix of a lot of special sparkly emotions 🙂  Aannndd funnily enough we both feel a special bond to fitness as we met for the first time on the stairwell at the Greenwich Village Equinox. You never know who you might run into?  Happy Valentines Day, Happy February, Happy Everything!

* SHORT CUT STORY

As fitness professional I get asked a lot of questions.

How can I get fit faster?
Why is it so much easier for her or him?
What’s the next hot thing? Am I missing something? Is there a trick?

I stand here to tell you there are no tricks annndd it isn’t easier for her or him.  The “New Hot Thing” is made up so that people can make money, sell advertising and keep you feeling like you are not enough.  But the truth is YOU are enough. You can do this… The squat, the push-up, and the jumping jack have been around forever because they wwoorrk. You don’t need anything fancy to get a great body.  All you need is a desire to do it, the poise to stick with it when it doesn’t happen immediately, and the confidence to believe it will happen.

There are no short cuts.  You have to work for it and earn it.  If a workout seems too easy it probably is. If you’re looking to lose 10lbs and you’re not sweating up a storm or huffin and puffin it’s not going to happen. It isn’t easier for anyone…  The only difference between people with great bodies and average bodies comes from within. They are willing to do whatever it takes- Wake-up at 5.30am in the morning- fine, no carbs with dinner- fine.  NO EXCUSES baby annd if you think that’s easy you’re dead wrong. GREAT bodies take great effort.

It’s hard… but do you want to know what the reward is? It’s being able to look into that mirror and be proud of yourself… Not just you on the outside but proud of you on the inside.  It takes courage and strength of character to be consistent everyday and trust your journey. Trust in you… to never give up and BRING IT. Bring it even when you’re tired, even when you don’t want to.

I find a lot of times… My motivation, my drive, my strength come from the same thing that at one point in my life made me feel my weakest. There are no shorts-cuts to greatness, it happens everyday on that bike, in the main studio, on that treadmill… When YOU go for it! Great bodies happen over time.  YES time.  Sometimes it takes years to get where you want to be, but then you can look back and say… I did that, I did it.

You know you can do it… Go for it in FEBRUARY! Show yourself how strong you really are.

* Lesbian Love w/ Lacey & Jessica

LL’s viewer-ship keeps going up up up! Thank you everyone for tuning in every Monday around 3pm. Take a peak at last month’s highest rated episode: In this episode we discuss whether there’s a difference between expectations and the reality of sex in an intimate relationship, and how to approach the issues that inevitably arise.

http://www.afterellen.com/blog/trishbendix/video-lacey-jessica-lesbian-love-episode-13

annnddd let us know if there’re any topics you’d like us to tackle in our next series of shows. Thank you for watching aaaanndddd commenting!  🙂

* NEWS

PARADE MAGAZINE– Grab a copy of Parade Magazine in the New York Post this Sunday, I’m the featured Fitness Expert discussing how BASIC exercises deliver POWERFUL results. Why do you think they stay around so long? Because they wwoorrrkkk baby!

BEAUTY BEAN – Check out this AWESOME Article on Interval Training! I truly believe when you’re using Intervals you are doing the Worlds BEST workout – http://thebeautybean.com/site/sweat/get-fit-faster-interval-train/ BEAUTY BEAN also did a great write up on Cycle for Survival – http://thebeautybean.com/site/sweat/cycle-for-survival-a-fit-fundraiser/ Way to be on the pulse of everything HOT Alexis!

EVENTS – What a month of EVENTS – The Equinox Anniversary with Mark was a SMASH HIT; Cycle For Survival was beyond inspiring, and The PLAYList of the Year! WooaahHH, what a wonderful year of music. Thank you all for taking part in these Gargantuan Special Sweat-Festivals… You help to make my job a JOY and you inspire me to keep getting better. Thank you.

SATURDAY Workout! – Saturdays are rocking the HOUSE at Greenwich! 11.30 TheBigGAME! 12.30 SPIN… Come one, come all to the SweatFEST of the century! I will be teaching for the rest of February into March. Annnd CONGRATULATIONS to Kristi Molinaro who had a Baby GIRL named 30-60-90! Just kidding on the name not the baby 🙂 hahahahaa! Yyyaaayyyy BRIE ALEXIS ZIMMER, YAY Kristi!

* JANUARY Top10!

HOT MUSIC – Download this month’s playlist! – Just click http://www.laceystonefitness.com/playlist.htm to get the January Top10! ‘10! Anndd DEFINITELY download “Marchin On” by Timbaland, this ballad is GLORIOUS.

  1. Call My Name – Morgan Page
  2. Tik Tok (Adren-Lin Remix)    – Dynamix Music
  3. Baby (feat. Ludacris)  – Justin Bieber
  4. Hey, Soul Sister – Train
  5. Marchin On (feat. OneRepublic) – Timbaland – MY TOP PICK!
  6. Carry Out (feat. Justin Timberlake) – Timbaland
  7. Future Love Remix (feat. Pitbull)  – Kristinia DeBarge
  8. Heat a.k.a. Heat of the Moment (Michael P Radio Edit) – Gaby
  9. Used Somebody (Radio Edit) – Kalus
  10. Replay – Iyaz

* TRAVEL

Ok, I know… This month is a little travel heavy but I promise to be back in full effect come March Madness! I will be here basically the entire month but I will be taking off the last week of FEB for a MMEEXXIICCOOOO Wedding of my own 🙂 If you ever have a concern as to whether I’m teaching just shoot me a quick emaillacey@laceystonefitness.com and I will type you a Y for yes or an N for no, okey dockey smokey? 🙂

Wednesday 2.10
12.15 – Spin – 19th Street – Eric Sherman – NIKE Corporate  EVENT!

WEDDING SUBS 🙂 🙂 🙂

Monday 2.22
6.30am – Spin – Greenwich – Shaina
12.30- Spin – Columbus Circle – Lou Jacob

Tuesday 2.23
6.40 – Cardio Sculpt – Greenwich – TBD

Wednesday 2.24
12.15 – Spin – 19th Street – Eric Sherman
6.30pm – Spin – Greenwich – Jason Rabinowitz

Friday 2.26
6.30am – Cardio Sculpt – Greenwich – TBD

Saturday 2.27
11.30 – Cardio Sculpt – Greenwich – Carol Scott
12.30 – Spin – Greenwich – Dave

Monday 3.1
6.30am – Spin – Greenwich – Shaina
12.30- Spin – Columbus Circle – Lou Jacob

Tuesday 3.2
6.40 – Cardio Sculpt – Greenwich – Erica K

Wednesday 3.3
12.15 – Spin – 19th Street – Eric Sherman
6.30pm – Spin – Greenwich – Jason Rabinowitz

* QUOTE-Tastic!

I read a great book last month called CRUSH IT.  I saw this guy speak online and I had to check out his book…  He makes me giggle. Here’s my favorite quote from the book – “Love your Family. Work Super Hard. Live your Passion” – Gary Vay-Ner-Chuk

Happy Valentines DAY!
Lacey

Passion.Patience.Persistence =  EXCELLENCE

LACEY STONE
Fitness Professional
Founder of Lacey Stone Fitness, LLC
www.LaceyStoneFitness.com

30
Oct
09

Attraction to other women…


In this episode Jessica and Lacey delve into the forbidden relationship topic. She’s hot, right? J&L talk candidly about what it feels like, what it means, and how to behave when another woman creates a little controversy in a relationship’s dynamic.

Watch what happens… 🙂

20
Oct
09

We’re Bbbaacckkkk!!!!!

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We’re bbaccckkkk and better than ever!  A HOT format and fresh NEW Topics… Jessica and I can’t wait to share the juice with you.  Come November it’s on.

15
Oct
08

Should you have sex on a first date?

When I said that I was going to post about S-E-X, Lacey was marginally horrified.  There were a couple of reasons behind this; one I think is predominantly cultural. I’m a true blue European who got reprimanded for sunbathing topless when I first came to the US, and Lacey is an all-American sweetheart who’s a little more of a lady…..in public at least 🙂

The other concern was exactly how the subject of sex was relevant to an (hopefully) inspirational Health, Fitness and Lifestyle blog?  To me, sex, be it the potential of it, the lack of it, our expertise in it, our insecurities, or our enjoyment of it is one of the underpinnings of our lives.  Yes, we go to the gym and try to steer clear of sugar because we want a healthy strong body, but it’s also so we can feel sexy and attractive in those bodies.  So when the lights get turned out, we can maybe switch them back on :).  So that when we walk into a room we can feel confident that we are presenting the best versions of ourselves.  So we can be potentially desirable to someone that we in turn desire to kiss and caress and touch.  There’s no shame in that.  That’s an essential element of who we are as people.  

I received a request to write about my thoughts on sleeping with somebody on the first date. And just to be clear, by sleeping, I mean sex 🙂

I’m an assertive woman.  I’ve slept with people on the first date, more than once or twice (sorry mum).  I’ve also been made to wait for quite a while.  Long-term relationships sometimes actually evolved out of both circumstances; I don’t necessarily think it’s true that sleeping with someone immediately makes them take you less seriously.  BUT… I have come to believe that unless you’re literally looking to scratch that itch and get the hell out of Boca, AND that the other person is looking for the same thing, it’s not the most ideal thing to get that intimate that quickly.

DISCLAIMER; I’m speaking from the female perspective here, having never been a man. Male readers: please add a comment and give us your take on the situation!

Here’s what I see A LOT.  A great woman, funny, sexy, smart gets all hung up on a guy or a girl who’s really not that right for them.  They’re probably pretty hot and have got a certain swagger but that’s often about it.  They don’t have much to say, or they’re obviously a major player, they like to party just a little too much, they have a tendency to let you pick up the check on a regular, OR they’re just not that into you.  They’re scratching that itch. And yet this woman is into them big time.  Women (generally speaking) apparently have a biological mechanism that ensures that the hormones released after getting intimate help create a sensation of bonding with their sex partner. This might have been useful when we needed someone to hunt and kill the dinner for our bambinos, but not so much now when the fact is we were just horny, and a little drunk and on a date with someone who has moves.  By getting intimate that fast are we just setting ourselves up to get attached to someone before we have any real idea of what they’re about? Before we know if we even WANT to get involved with them?  

As women I sometimes don’t think we’re being fair to ourselves or to the other person. How do they know what you want or don’t want, when they don’t know you and you don’t tell them?  Why is it that we can know someone well enough to get down and dirty but most of us would rather die than be clear and honest about what it is we’re looking for?  No games, no pretense, not trying to be so damn cool about our feelings all the time. 

Sex, especially GOOD sex (if it’s amazing then you’re totally screwed!) creates a false intimacy with someone that you don’t even know if you really like as a person.  We can get all obsessed with someone who we’re not compatible with in the slightest. We can even end up in relationships that are going nowhere fast. Just think of that ex somewhere in your past and how you can’t even imagine how THAT ever happened!

By the way….if you’re a girls girl reading this and you don’t identify…I’d ask the last girl you casually hooked up with exactly how she feels about the situation.  Two women; the odds are that ONE is feeling a little like this.

There’s no way to predict the outcome of any romantic/sexual entanglement. We’re all human, all fallible and there are no rules that haven’t been broken, nor clichés that haven’t been totally turned on their heads.  But I believe that it’s about being honest with yourself on the journey towards what it is that you most want in life.  It’s in the same way that if you’re trying to lose weight, or tone up at the gym; you and only YOU know if your hour at the gym was really 10 minutes on the cross-trainer and 50 minutes in the steam room, or if it was really just one cookie.  Only we are ultimately in control of how much we want anything in life.

If you’re just feeling frisky and they seem like a fun, SAFE, sexy person, and you just want to cut loose; no regrets, no expectations, then by all means, go do your thing. I’m not knocking it in the slightest :).  But what I am saying is that if you know that deep down you perhaps would like a relationship in your life, then not sleeping together right away can give you a chance; not to ‘trap’ them or portray yourself as a ‘good’ girl, but to figure out if THEY are who YOU really want.

What are your thoughts and experiences in the journey of love, life and sex?

 

 




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